How To Let Go Of The Past and Embrace Your Future

How To Let Go Of The Past and Embrace Your Future

All of us dwell on the past from time to time.

And that’s okay.
We’re human beings with emotions.
As we go through life and encounter different experiences, it’s only natural that we sometimes cling onto what once was.
Having said that, replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it so.
If you find it hard to let go of the past, whether it’s the end of a relationship, getting fired from a job - or anything in between, the following tips will show you how to let go of the past and embrace your future!

Number 1 - Accept The Things You Cannot Change

Acceptance is the first step to letting go and setting yourself free.

You can’t change the past; you can only make decisions today to help how your future turns out.
Accept your past and the people who have been a part of it.
Accept your circumstances, and remember that they don’t define you.
Bring yourself into the present moment… this is where life happens.

Number 2 - Understand Your Relationships

It’s important to take the time to reflect on your own history without judgment. 

Simply observe.
Understand that you are not your past.
The situations, patterns and people in your life, created your experiences, they didn’t create you.
Accept the person you are in this moment, and accept others the way they are.
Understanding your past and some of your patterns, will help you recognize why you hold on, and repeat certain behaviors.

Number 3 - Identify Negative Emotions

It takes practice to learn how to notice and identify your negative emotions.

When you start to feel a negative emotion, try to pinpoint exactly what you're feeling.
For example, if you feel jealous when you see an ex with a new person, recognize that the emotion is jealousy, and acknowledge the thoughts going on in your head that make you feel that way.
Don't blame your emotions on someone else.
Recognize why you feel the way you do, and think about what happened that got you to this place.

Number 4 - Evaluate Your Willingness To Let Go

Some emotional wounds can feel so deep.

It almost seems like there’s no way they can be let go.
There may be an endless shadow cast by the pain of your past that is clouding your future.
It is easy to get stuck in this darkness, but are you willing to let it go and move on?
If not, try to figure out what’s stopping you.
The power of moving on, relies on your willingness to take steps forward, and how much effort you’re willing to put in.

Number 5 - Learn To Forgive

Resentment and unwillingness to forgive will keep you locked in the past and prevent you 

from moving forward with your life.
Try to let go of whatever it is that’s holding you back.
You’ll realize that you are not what other people say you are.
You are not your pain, your past, or your emotions.
Generally, it’s the negative ideas about ourselves and our hurtful self talk that get in the way of who we really want to be.
Being able to let go requires a strong sense of self, which gives the ability to learn and grow from our experiences.

Number 6 - Create New Positive Experiences

Create change by focusing on new positive experiences.

Make a deliberate decision to initiate positive change in your life, and make positive actions that will connect you with your desired outcome.
Create new memories to replace the old ones, and start enjoying your current life.
Once you start to let go of your negative emotions, you can live more in the present moment.

Number 7 - Do Things That Scare You

Fear holds us back from doing a lot of things.

It closes our minds to possibilities for our future, and locks us into our comfort zone.
Most fears imprison us, and fill us with doubt and “what ifs.”
The more you do to get out of your comfort zone, the more fear will subside.
Do things that scare you, and you will grow and succeed!


Number 8 - Take Responsibility For Your Own Happiness

Do not attribute your unhappiness to anything outside of yourself.

If you do, you will be blaming others or events rather than spending your energy improving yourself.
A crucial step on the path to happiness is taking personal responsibility.
This means not blaming other people for your unhappiness, and figuring out ways to be happy in spite of the past and the previous behaviors of other people.
Once you take personal responsibility, you will be able to recognize that happiness depends more on your attitude, than it does on external conditions.


Number 9 - Express What Works For You

Find your voice, and share your thoughts and feeling with others.

If you continue to communicate what works and doesn’t work for you, you’ll no longer bottle up your emotions.
Expressing yourself is an important part of feeling good about yourself and your relationships.

Number 10 - Let Go Of Expectations

Expectations have a way of keeping us stuck.

They lead us to fear certain outcomes.
You can spend a lifetime thinking about how good things could have been, and how they didn’t turn out as you had hoped.
As time goes on, you’ll continue to learn that things don’t always go as planned - actually, they pretty much never do.
When it comes to the past, all you can do is accept whatever you’re holding on to, and then LET IT GO.
That’s when everything changes!

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